Relationship...

A few points came across my mind, when I was thinking about relationships...will keep this post updated as and when I get more such points...here are a few of them:

• In love, nothing else matters.



• Relationships work best when balanced.



• It always takes two to tango.



• Its better to be single than being committed to someone who isn't sure of marriage with you.



• Its better that someone keeps quiet rather than comparing you with others for what you are not.



• Great talkers can purely and only talk great...maybe a few real great implement them too..!



• One should forget what ego is before he/she steps into love.



• And where there is true love, where there is a good understanding of the other, feeling of ego never arises, come what may.



• The two in love should prefer enjoying their differences to finding flaws with the other.



• In a relationship everything should be mutual.If its not, then its just one-sided.



• Being there for each other means really being there for one during times of joys and also when he/she is in trouble at any point of time.



• A commitment just doesn't mean two people being together.It also means to take care of each other.Who doesn't want to be loved and taken care of?



• A relationship ends when there is ego instead of pure feelings.



• There is a lot of difference between "caring for" someone and "being bothered" about someone.



• If you need someone badly, let him/her go..If he/she is urs..then he/she will come back to you for sure...but when...?



• If things are not done at the right time, they lose their meaning/value just like how medicines cannot be consumed after their expiry dates.



• Taking your loved one for granted is acceptable upto the extent where it doesn't take the form of taking advantage of him/her...



• Self esteem and Ego are two terms that have a very narrow difference.Understanding and implementing them in your relationships should be done judiciously.



• Too much or nil of self esteem and ego individually will only bring you pain.



• Love/Affection is a two-way road.You give it and you get it.



• A communication gap between the two in love can be dangerous to their relationship if there is no mutual trust between them. But a too-long communication gap is also not advisable too.



• Faith in each, can be enhanced by confiding in each other that, "Yes.I know I can count on him/her".



• Where there is a will, there is a way.This applies to relationships too.



• Arrogance and ego are permissible upto some extent.



• Love is patience.If you cannot be patient with your love, then think about it again...you might have to lose him/her soon.



• Keep your feelings confined between just the two of you..never let people interfere in your matters.



• Fear, shame and guilt- never let these three negative thoughts haunt you.



• Self help is the best help. So never feel lonely..you should be able to entertain/support yourself.



• Never chase anyone especially when the other person doesn't like it.


• Nothing can ever be eternal...!

Pyar...

Pyar..ek aisi bhavna hai,jo banati hai duniya ko khoobsurat..
Kab chaa jaaye jeevan mei..nahi hai uski koi mahurat.

Dhanya ho jate hai woh, jinko mile sachcha pyar kabhi..
Lagta hai ki..haan..bana hai apne liye koi..ek pal k liye bhi...

Jitna katthin hai pyar paana, usse bhi katthin hota hai saath nibhana..
Ek doosre ka khayaal rakhne ko jitne bhi avsar aayenge, unko kabhi na gavaana..

Pyar toh shuruvaat hai ek sundar safar ka..us khaas insaan ke saath..
Jisse baat karne ki ichcha hoti hai..maano din ho ya raat...

Is pyar ke arth ko samajhna, nahi hai koi saral kaam...
Jab jaanoge kitni hai poojneey, karoge tum usko pranaam..

Pyar lekar jaati hai agle safar mein ek bandhan ki oar..
Shaadi...-Jahaan ban jati hai do premiyo ki ek jeevan bhar ki dor..

Sadiyon se har prem kahaani ki yahi chali aa rahi hai reeth..
Jahaan safal hui kuch kahaaniyaan..aur kuch bas bankar reh jaati hain atheeth...

Pyar jab kho jaata hai, toh jeevan lagta hai adhoora aur ekaanth..
Man mein hamesha hoti hai duvidha aur nahi reh pata hai woh prashaanth..

Agar aapko deni ho apne prem kahani ko ek safal poorvak pehchaan..
To baddhaao apne kadam bina koi shankha..apne jeevan bhar ke saath ka nirman..!

My life so far...

The first 15 years of my life were spent mainly in my school text books, playing and giggling with a few friends after returning home from school, doing my homework, eating and sleeping.

Never helped my sweet mother in cooking nor assisted her in any household chores...she would never let me do otherwise too..very sweet that she was... :) Never understood what relations are and what they really meant.

Then came a turning point of tragedy in my life, where I lost her in a terrible accident...I realised that I could have spent much better times with her when there were many chances to...Regretted that I didn't make use of the right opportunities given by Him.

My angel sisters took very good care of me then..they do even now...

Ever since the day my mother left me, I decided to turn over a new leaf and never to trouble anyone ever in my life and be good to one and all..Keeping others happy became a goal to me..be it in the short run as well as in the long run.

I started practising the act of being funny, cheering up people around, helping them solve their problems when they sought my advice..being a moral support to friends who needed me..This also helped me in becoming a much better person..not boasting here....but telling it aloud so that I can feel happy that I did manage to do a few good deeds and be labelled by many as a "sweet person".

But offlate, I don't see myself much/anymore like this....I feel I am lost in the woods.I have woven such a complex web around myself that I am unable to see what the truth about even the smallest things of events is nor able to comprehend them even if I be able to see the truth in it.I get tensed for every other event-to-be...losing my jovial nature..not that I don't crack jokes and make people around me laugh, but their intensity or the frequency has definitely reduced..I am not able to trust people like before...this is definitely because I am losing my self-confidence..and as a result of which I get so confused about things....Phew...!

Once upon a time, I strongly believed in eternity of my things..but now...I doubt whether they would still want to be with me...An astrologer had predicted my horoscope and written very clearly that I would be a loner all my life because of my serious nature...I think things are going that way now..My intentions are never to hurt anyone...but I always end up hurting people..especially my closest ones...May be I shouldn't be blunt abut things I want to convey...

My greatest doubt now is , if I would ever have one single such friend(other than my family), who would always love to be with me no matter what I do or what I speak...who would always be happy with me and foremost of all, will I ever be able to keep someone happy all the while, someone never ever disappointed by me..?Will I be ever able to achieve this in my life..hehe..here comes another doubt!

I wish I be able to create a life around me where there is lot of love, faith, joy and peace...where there is no room for uncertainties, sorrows...Just looking forward to it..!

Lyrics..Simple and Straight- Beatles

Can't buy me love, love
Can't buy me love

I'll buy you a diamond ring my friend if it makes you feel alright
I'll get you anything my friend if it makes you feel alright
'Cause I don't care too much for money, money can't buy me love

I'll give you all I got to give if you say you love me too
I may not have a lot to give but what I got I'll give to you
I don't care too much for money, money can't buy me love

Can't buy me love, everybody tells me so
Can't buy me love, no no no, no

Say you don't need no diamond ring and I'll be satisfied
Tell me that you want the kind of thing that money just can't buy
I don't care too much for money, money can't buy me love

A Fairytale...

Once upon a time, there lived an epitome of beauty
By the name Belle - simple, sweet and having love in bounty..


She read books-a lot of them, for a time that was eternity,
Gaily would she hop then here and there,with an aura of serenity.

She lived with her Papa, a scientist, in a small cute cottage,
Who invented a wood cutting machine that required a minimum wattage.

On his horse does he set out to exhibit his invention in the neighbouring town,
Only to head towards the wrong path, to be chased by more than one hound.

Then did he find an old castle on the way, from the hounds,where he could dodge,
Entering it did he find a welcome from a candle and a clock,for him to lodge.

Soon there were the cups and saucers who treated him courteously,
but these moments couldn't be tolerated by a man who was beastly..

A beast that he was, he dragged Belle's Papa to the prison,
For tresspassing into his castle, stating this as the reason.

Led by her horse, a worried Belle entered the castle looking for her father,
Pleads the beast to leave her father and take her in the prison forever.

The Beast let her father go and imprisoned her in the place of gloom,
But said the cup," Don't scare her, show her the way to the guest room".

Soon was she taken to her beautiful and huge populate,
and she no longer felt as if she were in an isolate.

Surrounded by the cheers of Belle and the non-living beings for many days,
The beast also learnt how to love people and be cheerful for always..


Then came a day where Belle wanted to see her father, through a magic mirror,
The beast showed her a sick father writhing in pain in the cold, just to reach her.

Tears filled her eyes..her papa did she long to meet,
The Beast let her go as he loved her- he finally had his feat...:-)

She went running to see her father, took him home and tended him well,
But very soon were they surrounded by people who at them, began to yell.

As they didn't believe that the beast existed and labelled him mad..
Belle showed the beast thru the magic mirror,"he is harmless" did she add..

Consumed by fear and rage,the people left for the castle to kill the beast,
But the non living beings of the place attacked them from west to east.

The suitor of Belle managed to reach the place where the beast was,
Battled with him,stabbing him to death before his death came across.

Taken aback by this tragedy, Belle flew to him where he lay dying..
"You can't leave me....I love you" were her words as she started crying...

Then came sparks of light up depicting love from the heaven....
to transform the beast into a Charming Prince thus telling a story interwoven..

A prince was transformed into a beast by a spell cast by a fairy in disguise..
as an ugly woman seeking shelter, whom the prince treated in a way that wasn't nice...

The cast spell was to be broken the day the beast would learn to love...
and also be loved in turn, naturally, but not by any means of shove.

The cups and saucers, broomstick, wardrobe, candle and clock,
Were all the Prince's subjects who also fell under the same spell-lock.

Now was there a complete and happy kingdom where love filled its air,
Together they lived happily ever after, for each other with enamor and care..

A fairytale where love was never at the least..
Such is the timeless story of Beauty and the Beast...:-)

To be or not to be..

I held your hand to take you forward,
you stood there with hesitation, saying no word...
I understood your silence and gave you an assurance..
that I'll always be there for you..in a relationship with great endurance..
With the passing days, in me did you start to believe,
you felt happy...and your unhappy past from you could I relieve..

Flowers of love then did begin to bloom..
Never had us in our lives to be in states of gloom..
Moments grew into days, days into months into years..
Things seemed beautiful with all smiles and no tears..
Then did I think of staying this way forever and gathered courage..
To ask you for lifetime companionship through the holy bond of marriage..

But you never had any such thought in your mind..
your version of a relationship was of another kind..
But you then decided to give me what I wanted..
Marriage-the thread by which we could be forever bonded..
So sweet of you did I think that time...
Finally we would together hear the cathedral chime..

Lives got busy and you gave me time almost seldom..
I felt lonely and neglected...I felt," where is my chum?"
I decided to let you go for sometime away from me...
And come back once you realise that without me cannot you be...
On the contrary, things didn't work the way I thought,
there was created in our relationship a dry drought...

I wanted to come back to be with you at once..
But soon did I realise that I made of myself a dunce..
My words had pierced through your heart..
which always trusted me from the start...
To accept me back, did you feel too weak...
But not to hurt me, to an extent did you agree being meek..

Believe me, I never meant what I said..
Why did I ever breakup with you- is now my deep regret..
I have had beautiful moments of my life with you..
Sometimes felt that things are too good to be true..
But no matter how much I apologise or how much I care..
is not going to lessen your pain even about it if you share...

Letting you go of me doesn't also seem to come with ease..
Without you do I feel, that my life would only freeze..
You are insecure and unsure, not about yourself, but about my mind...
even though on one side you know that in your love have I gone blind..
Let me tell you one thing with eloquence at this point,
I think you are right,its difficult to mend a broken joint..

I can never see you in pain..though by me has it been caused..
But if this continues..it will make your life get forever paused...
I don't deny the unperishable love for each other, for now or forever...
But will you ever be able to trust me...even when we start to be together?
By asking you to stay back with me, am I being only selfish,
All my life, this is something which I would never be able to cherish...

One thing for granted can you take that there are things that will never change..
Like the way we always felt for each other...yes the same..nothing unknown nor strange..
No matter how much time you take,for our matter, to think and adjourn..
I shall wait for your decision..as an examinee for the results of her love to be known..
Dear love, all I want to say is that its your call now..the ball is in your court..
Any decision you take, will I duly respect it..to you putting forth my forever support.

Back to the pavilion

A guy expresses himself, through these words to his gal,
To get back to her after she declared their relationship as 'null'..!

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"I see only you each time I close my eyes..
thinking of you makes me feel warm and nice..

The flow of your thoughts in my mind doesn't stop...
and such are times when a wide smile does suddenly pop..

Its you for whom my heart does really care..
Forever, its with you whom I want my life to share..

To anyone else have I been ever so close..
its you, my sweetie...for an eternal love whom I chose..

Today I have somethings to be confessed-
I apologise for situations that had your mind feel pressed..

I promise that things will be better than before..
There shall be no chances of our separation anymore..

I promise true happiness and joys between me and you..
I promise our lives will be 'too good to be true'..

Oh my love, do believe in all my words so far said..
Cos this time, of being with me, you are never gonna regret! :-) "

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