Me :-)

Seems funny to me...but at this point of my life..I have started liking everything around me..I feel a positive energy around and within me..I smile too much these days..with or without any company...the thoughts in my mind are all of the good times I have ever had in my life till now..the world around me seems a nice place to live in..
Hehehe... not that I am in love which one would generally conclude by my statements above..!Just that I feel quite independent of the emotions attached to any person on the earth.I am still in the process of learning what life is..how to behave with people, the dos and don'ts and blah...or maybe because I like the place or locality where I live in!
I have no clue of whatever the reason is..!I know that my world has always been small even though I talk a lot to many people.
But one thing that I would to like highlight is....
"Smile...even if you have no reason to..because once you start smiling..be at yourself or anyone..you will find many reasons to smile in your life..A smile gives birth to another..! :-)"
Just felt like writing this in my blog, hoping that this message would manage to bring a smile on those faces who read this....!!
Take care!!
Keep smiling :-)
~Jans

Relationship...

A few points came across my mind, when I was thinking about relationships...will keep this post updated as and when I get more such points...here are a few of them:

• In love, nothing else matters.



• Relationships work best when balanced.



• It always takes two to tango.



• Its better to be single than being committed to someone who isn't sure of marriage with you.



• Its better that someone keeps quiet rather than comparing you with others for what you are not.



• Great talkers can purely and only talk great...maybe a few real great implement them too..!



• One should forget what ego is before he/she steps into love.



• And where there is true love, where there is a good understanding of the other, feeling of ego never arises, come what may.



• The two in love should prefer enjoying their differences to finding flaws with the other.



• In a relationship everything should be mutual.If its not, then its just one-sided.



• Being there for each other means really being there for one during times of joys and also when he/she is in trouble at any point of time.



• A commitment just doesn't mean two people being together.It also means to take care of each other.Who doesn't want to be loved and taken care of?



• A relationship ends when there is ego instead of pure feelings.



• There is a lot of difference between "caring for" someone and "being bothered" about someone.



• If you need someone badly, let him/her go..If he/she is urs..then he/she will come back to you for sure...but when...?



• If things are not done at the right time, they lose their meaning/value just like how medicines cannot be consumed after their expiry dates.



• Taking your loved one for granted is acceptable upto the extent where it doesn't take the form of taking advantage of him/her...



• Self esteem and Ego are two terms that have a very narrow difference.Understanding and implementing them in your relationships should be done judiciously.



• Too much or nil of self esteem and ego individually will only bring you pain.



• Love/Affection is a two-way road.You give it and you get it.



• A communication gap between the two in love can be dangerous to their relationship if there is no mutual trust between them. But a too-long communication gap is also not advisable too.



• Faith in each, can be enhanced by confiding in each other that, "Yes.I know I can count on him/her".



• Where there is a will, there is a way.This applies to relationships too.



• Arrogance and ego are permissible upto some extent.



• Love is patience.If you cannot be patient with your love, then think about it again...you might have to lose him/her soon.



• Keep your feelings confined between just the two of you..never let people interfere in your matters.



• Fear, shame and guilt- never let these three negative thoughts haunt you.



• Self help is the best help. So never feel lonely..you should be able to entertain/support yourself.



• Never chase anyone especially when the other person doesn't like it.


• Nothing can ever be eternal...!

Pyar...

Pyar..ek aisi bhavna hai,jo banati hai duniya ko khoobsurat..
Kab chaa jaaye jeevan mei..nahi hai uski koi mahurat.

Dhanya ho jate hai woh, jinko mile sachcha pyar kabhi..
Lagta hai ki..haan..bana hai apne liye koi..ek pal k liye bhi...

Jitna katthin hai pyar paana, usse bhi katthin hota hai saath nibhana..
Ek doosre ka khayaal rakhne ko jitne bhi avsar aayenge, unko kabhi na gavaana..

Pyar toh shuruvaat hai ek sundar safar ka..us khaas insaan ke saath..
Jisse baat karne ki ichcha hoti hai..maano din ho ya raat...

Is pyar ke arth ko samajhna, nahi hai koi saral kaam...
Jab jaanoge kitni hai poojneey, karoge tum usko pranaam..

Pyar lekar jaati hai agle safar mein ek bandhan ki oar..
Shaadi...-Jahaan ban jati hai do premiyo ki ek jeevan bhar ki dor..

Sadiyon se har prem kahaani ki yahi chali aa rahi hai reeth..
Jahaan safal hui kuch kahaaniyaan..aur kuch bas bankar reh jaati hain atheeth...

Pyar jab kho jaata hai, toh jeevan lagta hai adhoora aur ekaanth..
Man mein hamesha hoti hai duvidha aur nahi reh pata hai woh prashaanth..

Agar aapko deni ho apne prem kahani ko ek safal poorvak pehchaan..
To baddhaao apne kadam bina koi shankha..apne jeevan bhar ke saath ka nirman..!

My life so far...

The first 15 years of my life were spent mainly in my school text books, playing and giggling with a few friends after returning home from school, doing my homework, eating and sleeping.

Never helped my sweet mother in cooking nor assisted her in any household chores...she would never let me do otherwise too..very sweet that she was... :) Never understood what relations are and what they really meant.

Then came a turning point of tragedy in my life, where I lost her in a terrible accident...I realised that I could have spent much better times with her when there were many chances to...Regretted that I didn't make use of the right opportunities given by Him.

My angel sisters took very good care of me then..they do even now...

Ever since the day my mother left me, I decided to turn over a new leaf and never to trouble anyone ever in my life and be good to one and all..Keeping others happy became a goal to me..be it in the short run as well as in the long run.

I started practising the act of being funny, cheering up people around, helping them solve their problems when they sought my advice..being a moral support to friends who needed me..This also helped me in becoming a much better person..not boasting here....but telling it aloud so that I can feel happy that I did manage to do a few good deeds and be labelled by many as a "sweet person".

But offlate, I don't see myself much/anymore like this....I feel I am lost in the woods.I have woven such a complex web around myself that I am unable to see what the truth about even the smallest things of events is nor able to comprehend them even if I be able to see the truth in it.I get tensed for every other event-to-be...losing my jovial nature..not that I don't crack jokes and make people around me laugh, but their intensity or the frequency has definitely reduced..I am not able to trust people like before...this is definitely because I am losing my self-confidence..and as a result of which I get so confused about things....Phew...!

Once upon a time, I strongly believed in eternity of my things..but now...I doubt whether they would still want to be with me...An astrologer had predicted my horoscope and written very clearly that I would be a loner all my life because of my serious nature...I think things are going that way now..My intentions are never to hurt anyone...but I always end up hurting people..especially my closest ones...May be I shouldn't be blunt abut things I want to convey...

My greatest doubt now is , if I would ever have one single such friend(other than my family), who would always love to be with me no matter what I do or what I speak...who would always be happy with me and foremost of all, will I ever be able to keep someone happy all the while, someone never ever disappointed by me..?Will I be ever able to achieve this in my life..hehe..here comes another doubt!

I wish I be able to create a life around me where there is lot of love, faith, joy and peace...where there is no room for uncertainties, sorrows...Just looking forward to it..!